dirtwarrior Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 My mom is in the hospital. All her life she has done nothing mean or bad to anyone. She is in the hospital from several bouts with cancer the first one in 1974. Each bout with cancer left her battered and weakened. In the early days of fighting cancer doctors wernt sure how much radiation is needed to kill cancer without damaging healthy cells.It saved her life but slowly over the years it was killing nerve cells starting in her legs and moving up. Moms spirit was strong even though her body was getting weaker.3 years ago she fell and broke her hip, this took quite a toll on her and she had to stop working. I kept her spirits up by taking her places and was working well.In september mom broke her ankle. She went through surgery and rehab and was home in november. She was so happy to be home. My mom and dad has been married ror 52 years and my dad is in good health.Mom wanted to get some christmas decorations out of the closet and asked my dad to help her, he refused. She decided to get them herself. She fell and broke her leg (she is very fragile). She had surgery and was very hard on her.I went to visit her yesterday in the hospital (everyday in fact) she said she felt tired and ill.Eayly this morning dad called and said mom was in CCU. She had a ventalator, feeding tube and all kinds of IV's to get her blood pressure up and stable.I am kind of mad. If dad would have got off his ass and help mom with decorations she wouldnt be in the shape she is in now. I love my dad but I am mad. I know it is wrong to resent him for this. And mom told me not to hold it against him when I talked to her yesterday. How can I get over this? Quote
LUZR4LIFE Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 Sorry to hear about your mother. I hope gets well soon and that will get better for her, along with her health getting better. I'm not sure what all happened but you can't really blame your father for what has happen. Life just isn't fair at times and it always seems to be unfair to the nicest people. Right now, your just upset but in time you will calm down and will not blame your father for what has happen.I wish your mother the best and a fast and easy recovery. Quote
ricktendo Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 Dad's SUCK!Hope misses warrior gets better Quote
NIM Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 I don't understand how could he actually refuse to help her. That's really odd for a couple that is 52 years together..Sorry to hear that about your mother, I hope she'll get well since she has a strong spirit.Best of luck mate. Quote
Scrat Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 I only came back on the site today, and it's sad to read something like this. Do, or not do ...in both cases it could end with good or bad consequences.the problem is that you can't know before you make your choice or action.I don't think that your father don't help your mother hoping that something bad will happen to her. now knowing the result, I think your father would help your mother if he could go back in time.I'm deeply sorry for what is happening to all of you, and hope that your mother will get better! Quote
dirtwarrior Posted December 21, 2007 Author Posted December 21, 2007 I only came back on the site today, and it's sad to read something like this. Do, or not do ...in both cases it could end with good or bad consequences.the problem is that you can't know before you make your choice or action.I don't think that your father don't help your mother hoping that something bad will happen to her. now knowing the result, I think your father would help your mother if he could go back in time.I'm deeply sorry for what is happening to all of you, and hope that your mother will get better!You are right. Me and dad need each other now to make mom stronger. Quote
dirtwarrior Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 Mom passed at 5:45 this morning Quote
LUZR4LIFE Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Sorry to hear that, I wish the best for you and the family through this difficult time. Quote
cygnus Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Wow Dirtwarrior, really sorry to hear this mate. I wish all the best for you, I know these times can be tough. My grandfather recently passed, so I know sort of what your going through right now. Quote
Scrat Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 The lost of a beloved mother is always a painful life experience.. please accept my deepest condolences.Scrat Quote
cro-man Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 Sorry to hear that,the lost of a beloved person is always a painful experience.Please accept my deepest condolences. Quote
dirtwarrior Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 Mom was buried yesterday. It was a beautiful service at the chapel. Now she has a new body free of pain. Quote
STimm81023 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Sorry to hear about your mom dirtwarrior. I lost my mom and know how hard it is. God bless. Quote
dirtwarrior Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 The funeral home let all my aunts take all the flowers. They took the registry book. The pictures of my mom. And the cd with her on it.I have nothing Quote
LUZR4LIFE Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 That sucks. Hopefully your Aunts etc, will give you some things. Quote
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